One list, not four spreadsheets
Every wedding starts the same way: a spreadsheet from each side of the family, a third from the couple, and a fourth someone made ‘just to be safe.’ Reconciling them is where the first fight usually happens, because each list disagrees about who is invited, whose plus-one counts, and how the names are spelled.
AyeDu holds one guest record per person. Events, meals, travel and RSVPs all attach to that record, so when an aunt’s address changes, it changes once: in every event, every chart and every export.
Per-event invitations
A multi-day wedding does not have one guest list; it has one guest list with several views. The haldi might be forty people, the sangeet three hundred, the ceremony everyone. Generic tools force you to duplicate the list per event and keep the copies in sync by hand.
Here, each guest carries a simple set of flags: invited to which events, replied to which, eating what at each. Add an event and the list is already there, waiting for you to tick who is in.
Households, plus-ones and kids
Invitations go to households; seats go to people. The list understands both, so ‘The Sharma family (4)’ addresses one save-the-date but occupies four seats at four events, and a plus-one who gets named later slots in without breaking any count.
Dietary needs and travel details live on the person, not in a margin note. Caterers get a clean per-event meal count; the shuttle list generates itself from whoever marked they are flying in.
Built for both families
The hardest part of a guest list is not the software; it is that two families are editing it. Seats and permissions let a parent add their side without seeing the budget, and every change is attributed, so ‘who added these twelve people’ has an answer.
When the numbers matter (contracts, catering minimums), the list exports to Sheets or Excel in one click, per event, exactly as your vendor wants it.
Can I import my existing spreadsheet?
Yes. Upload the sheet, match the columns once, and the list builds itself with households and events attached. Duplicates across multiple sheets are flagged for you to merge rather than silently combined, because two aunts with the same name is not a hypothetical.
How do plus-ones work?
A plus-one is a seat before it is a name. It counts in every total and every catering number from day one, and when the guest tells you who they are bringing, the name fills in without changing any count you already gave a vendor.
Can each family manage their own side?
Yes. Give a parent a seat with access to the guest list and nothing else. They add and edit their side, you see every change attributed to them, and neither family can overwrite the other’s entries.